Creating and sustaining sexual connection can be a difficult task in our relationships. It can take deliberate, conscious work to reestablish a spark of connection. Don’t wait for it to happen on it’s own because it won’t! Listen to today’s show to learn how to create more sexual intimacy and connection in your relationship.

In this episode with Dr. Katherine Hertlein, we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

  • How to use the sensate focus guided process to understand your partner’s, and your own sexuality better
  • Learn how to communicate your sexual desires and needs
  • How to understand what it is you desire sexually
  • Why it’s important to avoid sexual activity when starting the sensate focus process
  • The two things that many intimacy issues in relationships come down to
  • And much more!

Kat is a professor in the Couple and Family Therapy Program in the Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Health in the School of Medicine. Her scholarship addresses sexuality and sexual health in couples, couple therapy, and the effect of technology on couples and families. Her research interests also include infidelity, high-risk sexual behavior, child and adolescent therapy, and cyber issues in couple and family therapy. Kat’s research, publications (10 books, over 70 articles and over 40 chapters) and teaching have been recognized by multiple awards at UNLV and beyond, including being awarded an esteemed Fulbright Scholarship. She serves as the Editor-in-Chief of the Journal of Couple and Relationship Therapy.

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