164: The 15 Minute Relationship Fix

Sound too good to be true? Well…depending on the state of your relationship, you may not fix EVERYTHING in 15 minutes, but this episode will put you well on the path to a happier relationship. Listen and learn the steps to Dr. Black’s 15 minute relationship fix exercise.

  • Learn the 15 minute relationship exercise that guides you and your partner through an ‘emotional conference’ to share your emotions and better understand each other
  • How to examine your emotions and understand any links to your childhood
  • The importance of listening to your partner and demonstrating an understanding through validation
  • Learn why agreement is optional, but understanding is necessary in your relationship
  • How to walk into a restaurant and immediately tell who is having great sex
  • Understanding that intimacy is not about getting the response you want, but handling the response you get
  • And much more!

Dr. Joel Block is a clinical psychologist specializing in treating couples and author of the 15 Minute Relationship Fix. Dr. Block is also a diplomate of the American Board of Professional Psychology and an assistant clinical professor of psychology and psychiatry at the Zucker School of Medicine at Hofstra/Northwell.

15 Minute Relationship Fix Outline
Hold an emotional conference with your partner by following the steps below:

  1. Set time aside. Preferably once a week, set time aside to talk with your partner about something that came up recently or something that has just been on your mind.
  2. Prepare. Sort your own thoughts out 5 minutes before you are going to speak with your partner.
  3. Share your feelings. Use ‘I’ statements to talk about your feelings with your partner.
  4. Understand. Have your partner demonstrate an understanding of your feelings, without analyzing them. If they understood, then it’s their turn. If they didn’t understand, then take some more time to discuss.
  5. Take turns. Now it’s your partner’s turn. Listen to your partner as they talk about something that’s on their mind and demonstrate an understanding to them.
  6. Reflect. Think about the issues that got brought up and examine them to see if their may be an underlying issue, often times this can be linked back to your childhood. Remember, it is important to understand each other, not necessarily to agree with each other. Taking the time to share feelings openly with your partner, without retaliation, can improve interpersonal skills, including empathy.

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Episode Links

The 15-Minute Relationship Fix: A Clinically-Proven Strategy That Will Repair And Strengthen Your Love Life

Dr. Joel’s Website

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