Winifred Reilly is a marriage and family therapist, with a private practice in Berkeley, CA. In her thirty-five years of clinical practice she has treated hundreds of couples, many who were convinced they were headed for divorce. Winifred has been a guest lecturer on marriage and sexuality, and her writing has appeared on The Huffington Post, The Good Men Project, xoJane and on her relationship advice blog, Speaking of Marriage.

In this episode we discuss relationship topics that include:

  • How to stop focusing on your partner’s contribution to the relationship and start making the changes on your own.
  • Why working on your own destructive behaviors will help improve your relationship.
  • How you can take the lead and create positive change in your relationship.
  • Why talking to a therapist can create a safe space to help work through your relationship issues.
  • Why it’s important not to wait around for your partner to create the change that you want to see and how you can do it yourself!
  • And much more!


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Winifred’s Daily Tool

Always try to interpret the highest possible motive for an action your partner is taking.

Relationship Advice Resource

It Takes One To Tango

Advice for Newlyweds

Don’t expect sex to stay hot and steamy. Take the lead early on in the relationship!

Advice for Single Listeners

Find a partner who is willing to take the adventure with you and who is curious and willing to put in the effort to make the relationship work.

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