Most of our issues in relationships come from patterns we’ve learned from our family. If we can better understand these patterns, and where they came from, we can begin to heal ourselves and relate better to others. Listen to today’s show to learn how to do this!

In this episode with Tracy McMillan, we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

  • How issues in our current relationships can come from our childhood
  • How to identify the major pain points that you need to work on in your individual development
  • Attachment theory and why it’s important to understand you and your partner’s attachment styles
  • The importance of self regulating under uncertainty
  • And much more!

Tracy McMillan is a television writer, relationship expert and author, whose writing credits include “Mad Men,” “Good Girls Revolt,” “Marvel’s Runaways” and “United States of Tara.” Tracy is currently hosting the relationship series ‘Family or Fiance,’ airing Saturday nights on OWN. In the series she works with engaged couples to address the reservations and concerns their families have about the marriage. She’s also the author of three books – a memoir, I Love You and I’m Leaving You Anyway; a novel, Multiple Listings; and a relationship book, Why You’re Not Married… Yet. The latter is based on the viral blog Why You’re Not Married, which for more than two years was the most-viewed article in the history of the Huffington Post. Tracy’s made numerous television appearances, including Oprah Winfrey’s Super Soul Sunday, NBC’s dating show “Ready For Love,” “The Today Show,” “Access Hollywood Live,” “Katie” and more. Her TedX talk The Person You Really Need to Marry has more than 9.7 million views.

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