Thea & Duane Harvey are marriage and family therapists specializing in Imago Relationship Therapy. They have been married 10 years and have a thriving couples therapy practice in Santa Monica, California. They believe that novelty, pleasure and romance are the keys to creating a lasting joyous connection.

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

  • Why success in your relationship can be measured by the number of difficult conversations you have.
  • The value of an organizational approach to communication in your marriage or relationship.
  • Three valuable tools to manage anxiety so it doesn’t affect your relationship.
  • Learn how to not be controlled by your emotions.
  • And much more!


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Thea & Duane’s Daily Tool

Thea: Be aware of how you’re communicating – make eye contact, be in the same room, touch your partner’s arm or shoulder.

Duane: Always give a positive interpretation on what happened. Champion, Cherish and Console your partner.

Relationship Advice Resource

100 Love Sonnets

Cosmo Magazine

Reflective Parenting

Advice for Newlyweds

Duane: Enjoy every minute of it. Understand that you’re going to have breakdowns, and they are opportunities – smile and lean into them.

Thea: Keep the romance alive. Keep doing the things you did during the honeymoon phase.

Advice for Single Listeners

Duane: Become the partner you’re looking for.

Thea: Start cultivating the emotions you want to feel in a relationship, and that’s what you’ll attract – love, respect, happy, attractive.

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