Suzanne Degges-White, PhD, is professor and chair of the Department of Counseling, Adult and Higher Education at Northern Illinois University. She earned her PhD in Counselor Education and Supervision at the University of North Carolina at Greensboro. She is a licensed counselor and has over 15 years of experience working with children, adolescents and adults, including couples and families.

Her research interests include the development of identity and intimate relationships including family relationships, romantic relationships and friendships. She has authored several books addressing relationships including Friends Forever: How Girls and Women Forge Lasting Relationships; Toxic Friendships: Knowing the Rules and Dealing with the Friends who Break Them; Mothers and Daughters: Living, Loving, and Learning over a Lifetime; and Sisters and Brothers for Life: Making Sense of Sibling Relationships in Adulthood. She also is a featured blogger for Psychology Today.

In this episode we discuss relationship topics that include:

ACA (American Counseling Association) Annual Convention in San Francisco, California, Wednesday, March 15, 2017. (Photo by Paul Sakuma Photography)

  • Why it’s important to develop rituals as a couple.
  • How to develop a unique relationship identity and why it’s important.
  • How binging on Netflix can actually be a good thing for your relationship.
  • Learning to preserve your relationship’s identity and that of your own.
  • And much more!


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Relationship Advice Resource

The 5 Love Languages

Advice for Newlyweds

As years go by things will go up and down.

Advice for Single Listeners

Recognize that relationships take work.

Interview Links

Suzanne’s Blog

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