Susan Piver is the author of the classic relationship book, The Hard Questions. On today’s show we talk with Susan about how she came up with the questions in the book, which questions are her favorite, the value of asking questions to ourselves and our partners and much more!

In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

  • Why you should start with your deal breakers when asking hard questions to your partner
  • Which specific questions you can ask your partner to get to know them better
  • Questions that can reveal the deeper character of your partner
  • The importance of understanding the underlying meaning behind questions and answers
  • And much more!

Susan Piver is the New York Times bestselling author of nine books, including The Hard Questions, the award-winning How Not to Be Afraid of Your Own Life, The Wisdom of a Broken Heart, and Start Here Now: An Open-Hearted Guide to the Path and Practice of Meditation. Her newest book is The Four Noble Truths of Love: Buddhist Wisdom for Modern Relationships.

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The Hard Questions

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