On today’s episode we welcome Kyle Benson. Kyle writes at the KyleBenson.net, where he uses science and life experiences to help those in troubled relationships get the love, respect and passion they dream of.

In today’s episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

  • How attachment styles affect relationships.
  • How to identify your attachment style.
  • How to deal with the anxious-avoidant downward spiral.
  • Tools to become more secure in your relationship.
  • How to own your neediness.
  • And much more!

We are excited to announce the I Do Podcast Patreon campaign. Patreon is a website like Kickstarter or GoFundMe where you can support creatives! We started our page to help cover the costs of equipment, production and a babysitter to watch our one-year-old while we record! : )

When you contribute you will also get awesome exclusive benefits for our patrons. You can sign up to donate as little as $2 per month to support the podcast.  Any little bit helps! Sign up to support the podcast today. 

I Do Podcast is also supported by:


If you shop on Amazon, you can use this link, and we will get a small percentage of everything you buy! Don’t worry, this money is coming from Amazon, and you will not pay any extra, and you’ll help us out along the way!

Click the link here and it will automatically save on your computer for 30 days. After 30 days you can just click again and it will redo it for another 30!

Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information ,but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download.


We don’t like asking our listeners for handouts, so we aren’t! The last two options won’t cost you any money that you aren’t already spending and you can support us on Patreon for less than the cost of a cup of morning Joe!

If you haven’t already subscribed to I Do Podcast and left us a review on iTunes, that helps us a ton as well Thanks! – Chase and Sarah

Kyle Benson’s Daily Tool

Turn toward your partner each morning. Answer your partners bids for emotional connection.

Relationship Advice Resource

7 Principles That Make Marriage Work by John Gottman Ph.D.

What Makes Love Last? by John Gottman Ph.D.

Advice for Newlyweds

Ask an open ended question about your partner’s day every morning. Kiss a little longer! (6 seconds if you can)

Advice for Single Listeners Seeking a Happy Relationship

Honor your individual needs and attachment style.

Interview Links

Kyle’s Website

Determining your attachment style quiz 

Interview Recap with Chase & Sarah

Coming Soon…

If you enjoyed, we would really appreciate a review in iTunes & Stitcher.