Men are horny all of the time, and all they want is sex! At least this is what popular culture tells us. Our guest today is here to tell us why that’s not true, and how this common narrative is negatively impacting our relationships. Listen to today’s show to learn the research behind this and how we can use this knowledge to improve our relationship.
In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:
  • The myth that men always want to simply have sex for primarily sexual reasons
  • How sex can be a bid for connection
  • What to do if there is mismatched sexual desire in your relationship
  • Why feeling desired can be a large part of men’s sexual lives
  • And much more!

Sarah Hunter Murray is a relationship therapist with a PhD in Human Sexuality. She is the author of the new book “Not Always in the Mood: The New Science of Men, Sex, & Relationships.”

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Episode Links

Sarah’s Website

Book: Not Always In The Mood

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