Shame can be an emotion that takes a toll on us personally and in a relationship. Listen to today’s show to learn how to address our shame or the shame our partner has toward themselves.

In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

  • Understand the important distinction between guilt and shame
  • How shame is formed and negatively affects our view of self
  • Accepting our vulnerabilities to release shame and improve our lives
  • Helping our partner navigate shame
  • Communicating with our partner about shame
  • And much more!

Dr. Margaret Rutherford has been a psychologist in private practice for over twenty-five years and is the author of Perfectly Hidden Depression: How to Break Free from the Perfectionism That Masks Your Depression which was published in November 2019.

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Episode Links

Dr. Margaret Rutherford’s Website

Book: Perfectly Hidden Depression

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