Dr. Lisa Firestone is the Director of Research and Education at The Glendon Association and Senior Editor for the mental health website PsychAlive.org. She is the author of numerous articles and chapters and the co-author of several books including Conquer Your Critical Inner Voice, Creating a Life of Meaning and Compassion, Sex and Love in Intimate Relationships and most recently The Self under Siege. Dr. Firestone is international trainer and speaker on: couple relationships, parenting, suicide, and violence prevention. She expert in the areas of suicide and violence and was involved in clinical training and applied research with her father Dr. Robert Firestone.

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

  • How vulnerability will help your relationship by creating more intimacy.
  • Cultivating vulnerability in yourself and your partner.
  • Why it’s important to ask for what you DO want rather than what you DON’T want.
  • How to get in touch with your real feelings underneath anger.
  • Creating an atmosphere of safety in your relationship to talk about feelings.
  • And much more!

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Dr. Firestone’s Daily Tool

Think about three things you’re grateful about from your partner every night before you go to bed. Be generous and do something that is meaningful to your partner.

Relationship Advice Resource

Fear and Intimacy by Robert Firestone

Advice for Newlyweds

Keep a kind attitude and express what you really want.

Advice for Single Listeners

Look for someone where you feel comfortable being yourself.

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