Research consistently found that it takes four positive comments to recover from one negative comment from a partner. That ratio means that criticism is a highly ineffective way of communicating in your relationship with your partner.

In this episode, Dr. Julie Colwell teaches how to shift out of toxic relationship patterns such as reactive brain, blame and criticism and instead, show appreciation for our partner.

Dr. Julie Colwell is a psychologist based in Boulder, CO. She has spent her career developing and refining methods for individuals, couples, families, groups, and organizations to shift out of energy-draining power struggles into reconnection, innovation and flow. Her methods are clear, research-based and powerful. Dr. Colwell also hosts workshops and classes and is the author of the bestseller, The Relationship Skills Workbook and The Relationship Ride.

Last Minute Added Bonuses + Savings for Spark My Relationship

Since we are such cheerleaders of Julie’s work, we decided to add another amazing bonus to the course — her book, The Relationship Skills Workbook.

With The Relationship Skills Workbook, Dr. Julia Colwell presents a practical guide for building a conscious partnership based on cooperation and trust—offering relationship-saving techniques and on-the-spot conflict resolution tools for disarming the explosive clashes that most commonly break couples apart.

This bonus will only be included if you purchase during our launch promo period ending on August 2.

Don’t forget, use the special I Do Podcast Listener promo code to get an additional 10% off.

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