If you’re in a relationship, there’s a likelihood you’ve dealt with a mismatch is sexual desire. This mismatch can be caused by a variety of factors that can often lead to unhappiness in one or both partners. It doesn’t have to be this way! Listen to today’s show to learn how to negotiate the frequency of sex in your relationship.

In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

  • Understanding that there is no such thing as a ‘normal’ frequency for how much you should be having sex
  • Should you schedule sex on the calendar?
  • How culture impacts our views on sex and gender roles in the relationship
  • Communicating with your partner about your sexual desires
  • How our sexuality and relationship styles have evolved
  • And much more!

David Ludden, Ph.D., is a professor of psychology at Georgia Gwinnett College. He received his Ph.D. in cognitive psychology from the University of Iowa, and is the author of The Psychology of Language: An Integrated Approach and author of the blog “Talking Apes” on Psychology Today.

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Episode Links

Dr. Ludden’s Blog: Talking Apes

204: Rethinking Female Sexuality

135: Coping With Your Partner’s Annoying Behaviors

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