Most of us have an understanding of what traditional monogamy in relationships and marriage means. What if we worked toward a new monogamy where the rules were negotiated and not simply followed by outdated societal standards? Listen to today’s show to learn what the new monogamy is all about.

In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

  • What are your assumptions about how a relationship will go?
  • The specialness of a relationship and what it means
  • Negotiating a new monogamy with your partner
  • Collaboratively negotiating with your partner around the relationship and fidelity
  • Understanding your own insecurities
  • And much more!

Dr. Catherine Aponte, author of “A Marriage of Equals: How to Achieve Balance in a Committed Relationship”, is a clinical psychologist who maintained a practice of clinical psychology for 30 years, emphasizing couples therapy. She also was Associate Adjunct Professor of Clinical Psychology at Spalding University where she taught graduate psychology courses and supervised clinical students. She earned her MS and Psy.D. at Duke University and Spalding University respectively.

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Episode Links

Dr. Catherine Aponte‘s Website

Book: A Marriage of Equals

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