This episode introduces the foundations of a healthy relationship through four key pillars. Colter, Cayla, and Lauren use relatable examples, such as navigating differing preferences in dance lessons or understanding the dynamic between pursuers and withdrawers, to illustrate these concepts. They emphasize the importance of shared language, emotional safety, and empathy in building deeper connections. Rather than prescribing rigid rules, the episode advocates for learning and practicing relational skills through therapy and real-life experiences.
In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:
- Emotional Regulation / Window of Tolerance
- Recognizing/Breaking Negative Cycles
- Vulnerability
- Emotional Connection
- Roles of Boundaries
- Building Skills Through Practice
In this episode we sit down with licensed therapists and our incoming Relationship Advice hosts Colter, Cayla, and Lauren to talk about the “protective moves,” or behaviors people exhibit during conflict to shield themselves emotionally or regain a sense of control in relationships. These 3 are experienced therapists specializing in attachment, trauma, and anxiety, explore how these moves—like defensiveness, criticism, passive aggressiveness, avoidance, or over explaining—are common yet often disconnecting strategies.
Key Relationship Advice Topics Include:
- Understanding Protective Moves
- Examples and Intentions
- Origins and Patterns
- Moving Through Conflict
- Building Resources
The hosts emphasized that while protective moves are natural, fostering awareness and understanding can transform them from barriers to bridges in relationships. They closed by advocating for patience, self-compassion, and communication to navigate these dynamics effectively.
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