If you’re a perfectionist or you’re in a relationship with one, today’s interview with Darlene Lancer will be essential for your relationship. As we share in the interview, we struggle with this topic in our own relationship. Chase can be a perfectionist, and although he is perfect to me, there are times when it can negatively impact our relationship. However, after talking with Darlene, we both feel more equipped to handle potential conflicts arising from both our imperfections.
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“Strive for continuous improvement, instead of perfection.” – Kim Collins, World Champion Track and Field Sprinter
Darlene Lancer is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and expert author on relationships and codependency. Shes counseled individuals and couples for 30 years and coaches internationally. Her books include Conquering Shame and Codependency, Codependency for Dummies, 10 Steps to Self-Esteem, How to Beat Perfectionism and many more.
In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: 
- How unrealistically high standards can hurt your relationship.
- Why becoming aware of self-talk and beliefs is important in dealing with perfectionism.
- Learn the type of perfectionist you or your partner are in order to improve the relationship.
- How to work with your inner critic.
- Learn how you or your partner can become a healthy perfectionist that does not damage the relationship.
- Why challenging your beliefs can be a valuable exercise in improving your relationship.
- And much more!
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Darlene’s Daily Tool
Tell your partner what you appreciate in them.
Relationship Advice Resource
Codependency For Dummies
How to Beat Perfectionism
Advice for Newlyweds
Talk to each other.
Advice for Single Listeners
Work on becoming happy in your own life in order to attract the partner that’s right for you.
Interview Links
Darlene’s website